13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do
Amy Morin
Who should read: All humans can benefit! Those in vet med need all the mental strength they could get!
Favorite quote: “People pleasing is about controlling other people’s feelings.”
This was a tough love kind of book. Mental strength is something I think we can all agree is a valuable thing, but why? What is mental strength? True to the book title, Ms. Morin tells us what it is not. Some of the bigger myths she dispels: Mental strength does not equal mental health. It is not another positive thinking strategy. It doesn’t require you to be entirely self-reliant. It does not involve ignoring your emotions. It isn’t about acting tough. It is something that can be developed and improved. Ms. Morin proposes that there are three factors that must be the focus of developing mental strength: Thoughts (replacing irrational thoughts with realistic thoughts), Behaviors (behaving positively regardless of circumstances), Emotions (mastering your emotions rather than allowing them to dictate your behavior).
She builds a case for working on mental strength by discussing the benefits, which include improved: resilience to stress (here’s looking at you veterinary staff member!), life satisfaction (looking at you harder), and performance (if the last two didn’t get you, how ‘bout this?!). Within the chapter of each trait that mental strong people don’t do, she provides some example behaviors to help determine if you are afflicted with this trait, and some helpful tips and strategies for managing this trait if you find yourself exhibiting it.
The things NOT to do:
1. Self Pity: Replace with: Gratitude
2. Give Away Their Power: Replace with: Self-empowerment
3. Avoid Change: Replace with: Planning to meet change with success
4. Focus On Things Beyond Their Control: Replace with: Focus on what you can control
5. People-Please Everyone: Replace with: Intentionally choosing who you wish to accommodate
6. Fear Calculated Risks: Replace with: Balancing emotion and logic to selectively choose calculated risks.
7. Dwell In The Past: Replace with: Make peace and move beyond the past.
8. Repeat Mistakes Multiple Times: Replace with: Intentionally study and learn from mistakes.
9. Resent Other’s Success: Replace with: Cooperate rather than compete.
10. Give Up At First Failure: Replace with: View failure as part of the journey.
11. Fear Alone Time: Replace with: Embrace alone time.
12. Feel They Are Owed By the World: Replace with: Practice humility.
13. Expect Immediate Results: Replace with: Develop comfort with delayed gratification. (See also 6 and 10)
This was a very useful and actionable book, with many helpful strategies. My suggestion: Read the section that speaks the most to you, and take some time to percolate and implement the suggestions. You could easily be kept busy for the next year!
I think the admin of this site is in fact working hard in support
of his web site, for the reason that here every information is quality based stuff.
As the admin of this web page is working, no question very quickly it
will be renowned, due to its feature contents.
When someone writes an paragraph he/she maintains the thought of a user in his/her brain that how
a user can understand it. Therefore that’s why this piece of writing is perfect.
Thanks!
I love looking through an article that can make people think.
Also, many thanks for permitting me to comment!
I needed to thank you for this excellent read!!
I absolutely loved every little bit of it. I have you book marked to look at new things you post…
WOW just what I was looking for. Came here by searching for
cheap hosting
Its like you read my mind! You appear to know so much about
this, like you wrote the book in it or something.
I think that you can do with some pics to drive the message home a
little bit, but instead of that, this is wonderful blog.
A fantastic read. I will certainly be back.
I read this paragraph completely on the topic of the difference of
latest and preceding technologies, it’s remarkable article.
Great article. I will be dealing with some of these issues
as well..
If you are going for best contents like I do, simply visit this
web site all the time because it offers feature contents, thanks
Hmm it appears like your site ate my first comment (it was extremely long) so I guess I’ll just sum it up what I wrote and say, I’m thoroughly enjoying your blog.
I as well am an aspiring blog writer but I’m still new to the whole
thing. Do you have any tips for novice blog writers? I’d definitely appreciate it.
Hi there are using WordPress for your site platform?
I’m new to the blog world but I’m trying to get started and create my
own. Do you require any coding expertise to make
your own blog? Any help would be really appreciated!
I love your blog.. very nice colors & theme. Did you design this website yourself or did you hire someone to do
it for you? Plz respond as I’m looking to construct my own blog and would like to find out
where u got this from. many thanks
whoah this weblog is excellent i really like studying your articles.
Stay up the great work! You realize, many individuals
are searching around for this info, you can aid them greatly.
This is the perfect webpage for anybody who wishes to understand this topic.
You know so much its almost hard to argue with you (not that I really would want to…HaHa).
You definitely put a new spin on a topic that’s been discussed for
many years. Great stuff, just great!
Wonderful blog! I found it while browsing on Yahoo News. Do you have any suggestions on how to get
listed in Yahoo News? I’ve been trying for a while but I never seem to
get there! Thank you
Excellent blog here! Also your site loads up fast! What host are you using?
Can I get your affiliate link to your host? I wish my website loaded up as quickly as yours lol
You could certainly see your expertise within the work you
write. The arena hopes for even more passionate writers such as you who are not afraid to mention how they believe.
At all times follow your heart.
It’s remarkable to go to see this web page and reading the views of
all mates regarding this post, while I am also keen of getting familiarity.
Hello, yes this paragraph is truly fastidious and I have learned lot of things
from it concerning blogging. thanks.